Growing Pains into Grace
We're all walking through something. Whether its the best season of life you have ever experienced, the worst storm you have ever been caught in, or somewhere just spending some time in between - we're all walking through something. Whenever I talk to a friend that is struggling or feels bad about something they're feeling I love to tell them "its real because you feel it", ALL of our emotions are valid and all of them are okay to be felt...because we feel them they are real. It's so easy to get caught up in these feelings and then to self talk ourselves to "shut it down" or start thinking that were being "crazy", but telling ourselves these things is not where the healing comes.
I have always been a 98% naturally cheery person, that is how I was born and how I have always truly felt. But in that 2% there has been anxiety, hurt, fear, shame, and doubt - feelings im sure that no one can say they're a stranger to. But in my 26 years I have learned (and asked God) to help me through, to walk me through those feelings and to help me get to the other side stronger so that I can better navigate next time and so I can lend a helping hand to a friend going through the same. I started writing this post as how to guide to "feeling better" but it really just turned into a post about giving yourself GRACE.
First things first is to find out what your triggers are and get rid of that $hi%! Do you have a friend that is constantly putting you down? Do you have a job that is not moving you forward? Are you listening to music that makes you feel bad about yourself? Do you find yourself going to places that you know you don't want to be OR not going to places that you want to go to? If something does not move you forward, then it's not meant for you.....its time to move on, get going, start practicing some self love and don't settle for less. Personal example, I found myself feeling very overwhelmed by social media (and I am a total instagram lover) so I limit my screen time, watch who I'm following, and don't play the comparison game because girl we're all on different roads and you just don't ever know where yours is leading you!
Find a place that makes you feel good. Mine is the beach, the ocean is an instant relaxer (is that a word??) for me. I can get a block from the ocean and just automatically feel the weight lifting. Find a spot at a coffee shop, get a yoga membership, create a new little safe space in your apartment that is your go to spot. Find somewhere that you feel the most like "you" and hold on to it. You can always go back here.
Know who your people are. Ya'll, this is so important. You can not fill others up if your own cup is empty so get you some friends and some loved ones that OVERFLOW YOUR CUP. Find those people and pour into them and let them pour into you! You need to have people that you can say "today I feel broken" and they will just sit with you / or you can say "today is the greatest day of my life" and they will celebrate until 2 am and cheer you on through it all.
Rest. Do you know what a nap can do? It can probably stop global warming, clean up all the straws in the ocean, clear all your wrinkles, AND create world place. Let yourself rest, it is okay to take a step back and take a break. Let your life be boring for a little while, take in the "everyday" and just get some rest. Come back better and brighter than before! My nightly ritual is a cup of hot green tea before rest, and always sleep before 10. Sleep helps, sleep heals.
Focus on the good. There are SO many things to be abundantly grateful for. When I feel my anxiety creeping in, I count my blessings. I think of the things that I have, the experiences I am so lucky to be a part of, the people that I know, and the beauty around me. Let this calm you, even if its just counting your breathes and being thankful that you're breathing - that is focusing on the good!
Each day brings new challenges, but each day also brings an opportunity for us to start new. Give yourself GRACE, we're all doing the best we can and that's such a beautiful thing.